That should be known, first and foremost. Maybe it seems like I should. My time here hasn’t necessarily been what I thought it would be. My best friend ditched me. Private school tuition got to be more than I could handle. But I never, ever would have learned this much about myself if I hadn’t left Florida. I’m viewing the rest of my time here as a character building year to grow and continue to discover even more about myself.
The biggest thing I’ve learned is how to fend for myself. I live in this big ‘ole city with pretty much no one I know and I manage to navigate it every single day. I keep a roof over my head, and I always find a way to make things work . That being said, Chicago has also been a very humbling lesson on accepting help from others. I like to fancy myself as completely independent, but that isn’t always realistic. I never would have gotten through all of this without support. I always try to do everything on my own and accepting help from others is sometimes harrowing for me. But I’m learning to put aside my pride and accept the help that is offered to me. I always thought that growing up meant doing everything on your own, but I guess sometimes it means being able to admit when you can’t.
Yin and yang is the perfect philosophy to describe life in the windy city. The good and the bad, living harmoniously alongside one another. Neither can exist without the other.
It’s really easy to be cynical and let yourself become hardened here. While Chicago can be a city of opportunity and adventure, it can also be a city of poverty and sadness. Some of the things that I’ve witnessed here have absolutely broken my heart, from driving past a suicide to seeing people sleeping outside in the freezing cold because they have no where else to go. I’ve been verbally threatened on the subway and witnessed muggings, both in the same day once. In a way, these are things that I’ve always been sheltered from. But at the same time, I’ve also witnessed an incredible amount of kindness and seen the beauty in the hearts of so many people. I believe I wrote about this in an earlier post, but there was a time when I was really struggling and couldn’t work public transportation into my budget. A girl I work with found out that I had been walking home, and selflessly gave me a bus pass loaded with fare to get me home. I couldn’t believe that someone who hardly knew me and had no motive for such generosity, would show me so much kindness. Even today, I was astounded by the kindness and compassion of the entire staff at Erie Medical Center. I am currently uninsured and needed to get a TB test to start at my job at the after school center. Not only did they do the TB test for no charge, but they also provided me with a flu shot, a check up, and sent me home with information that could help me get insurance coverage. The good and the bad live side by side here. Intertwined and completely codependent on one another. It’s the perfect symbiotic relationship. Life can be both beautiful and monstrous at the same time and I’ve seen a lot of that here.
Residing here has been such an adventure. For better or worse. Just because all of my experiences haven’t been positive, doesn’t mean that I won’t learn from them and become a better person for having them. Hard lessons are valuable lessons too. I’m learning how to live on my own. I’m learning who to trust. I’m learning that I have so many incredible people in my life. I’m learning to take the bad with the good. I’m learning to trust in myself and my abilities. I’m learning every day I’m here. That’s invaluable.